Deal with the past on the level of the present. The more attention you give to the past, the more you energize it, and the more likely you are to make a ‘self’ out of it. Don’t misunderstand: Attention is essential, but not to the past as past. Give attention to the present; give attention to your behavior, to your reactions, moods, thoughts, emotions, fears, and desires as they occur in the present. There’s the past in you. If you can be present enough to watch all those things, not critically or analytically but nonjudgementally, then you are dealing with the past and dissolving it through the power of your presence. You cannot find yourself by going into the past. You find yourself by coming into the present.
Eckhart Tolle (via lazyyogi)



n. the tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it—whether through envy or pity or simple foreignness—which allows it to drift away from the rest of your life story, until the memory itself feels out of place, almost mythical, wandering restlessly in the fog, no longer even looking for a place to land.


I loved you more after you slept on the floor

Pressured me to say goodnight.

I loved you less when you pleaded for a yes,

Saw you looking down with delusive Adour.

I anticipated my phones vibrations revealing your thoughts,

You promised the stoic approach of lust I craved and never found.

I refused to recognize how fraught with emotion your eyes had become

Didn’t realize it was the muffled restrain in your voice I’d loved,

The respect of nos and your power to not.